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People will often say “what a man can do, a woman makes it look better with her magic touch”, I guess this saying tends to make men more relaxed when it comes to cooking duty.
Our society tends to attach cooking to women just like bread will all day compliment butter. This forceful marriage between women and kitchen duty on the alter of misconception, joined together in daily matrimony by the people. This “tipatipa” insinuation needs to stop because of the negative influence it’s beginning to have on men and the family.
Cooking is the practice or skill of preparing food by combining, mixing, and heating ingredients to be eaten. So, this definition of cooking doesn’t state or proposes whether a man or a woman should be at the kitchen table to satisfy the stomach anytime it calls for food. Almost 80% of families made it mandatory for a female child to learn and master the art of cooking but meanwhile this shouldn’t relegate the male child too from holding knife sometimes to cut some ingredients inside the kitchen too.
Many families aren’t together today because of this issue that seems minute but indeed it’s a big thing that can turn the back of families to each other.
I remember an incident in my neighborhood sometimes ago, Baba Ebina is obviously a foodie and everybody in the community knows him for that because he will always engage his mouth with grinding and chewing things at the landlord meetings.
But on a certain day, the whole community couldn’t sleep because Baba Ebina kept on ranting and scolding his wife for failing to get his food ready before he returns from a friend’s house after playing the game of ludo. But his wife insisted and upholded that cooking shouldn’t be gender based.
Before we are able to get to the base of the squabble, Baba Ebina has doubled the slap he ferociously threw to his wife. Divorce ended that marriage.
A lot of marriages are heading towards divorce street because they choose to be strict with the fact that woman of the house should do the cooking but that shouldn’t be a rigid commandment, in fact do you know that couples who enjoy cooking together are significantly more satisfied in all areas of their lives than couples who don’t cook together?
Finding common ground with food is a great way for couples to express their love for one another, and doing something for the person you love is one of the best ways to show your appreciation and it shows the relationship is not a one man thing but two heads that has now become one.
When one partner in a couple is shouldering the cooking responsibility, then their is surely a need to entrench cooking equality in your marriage constitution because two good heads are more productive than one.
Both man and woman should be encouraged to cook without restricting it to a gender, remember doing the kitchen exercise together makes the love bond stronger and the food sweeter.
Written By Adeniyi Adewumi Opeoluwa A Student Of I-con Universal Polytechnic, Osogbo.
